Part 3: Prayer
Most people view prayer as the last resort when all our human efforts fail. But...
Prayer should be our first response, not our last resort.
Prayer should be our first response, not our last resort.

We are to pray about our problems, but that is NOT the primary purpose of prayer. Would you say a husband had a good relationship with his wife if he only talked to her when he needed something from her? The primary purpose of prayer is to cultivate your personal relationship with God.
When we don’t pray, we are basically communicating to God, "I don’t need your help; I’ve got this." Ultimately, prayerlessness is pride.
Even Jesus constantly went to the Father in prayer. Often when he was the most busy, he would sacrifice sleep to get away and pray.
But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. Luke 5:16
The disciples noticed the richness of his prayer life and said to him, “Teach us to pray.” Today we are going to get a crash course on how to pray like Jesus.
When we don’t pray, we are basically communicating to God, "I don’t need your help; I’ve got this." Ultimately, prayerlessness is pride.
Even Jesus constantly went to the Father in prayer. Often when he was the most busy, he would sacrifice sleep to get away and pray.
But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. Luke 5:16
The disciples noticed the richness of his prayer life and said to him, “Teach us to pray.” Today we are going to get a crash course on how to pray like Jesus.
What are some common misunderstandings about prayer?
How to Pray Like Jesus (Matthew 6):
1. Pray Sincerely
And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:5-6
A “hypocrite” was an actor in the Greek theater who pretended to be someone they were not. The religious leaders loved giving fancy prayers that made them look super spiritual. Jesus warned that since the applause of people is what they were after, then that’s the only reward they were going to get!
Ask yourself, "When it really comes down to it, why do I pray? To please God or to impress people?"
Jesus recommended finding a private place to pray. This helps eliminate distractions and assures that you are doing it for God, not for others.
2. Pray Simply
And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. Matthew 6:7-8
Keep it simple and sincere! There are no bonus points for fancy words.
Prayer is not about saying the exact right words to twist God’s arm. Martin Luther said, “Prayer is not overcoming God's reluctance. It is laying hold of His willingness.” Repeating the same things over and over doesn’t make your prayer more powerful.
Talk to God like you would to a loving, earthly father. You speak to your father with respect, but you talk to him informally. God cares about your heart, not your words.
1. Pray Sincerely
And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:5-6
A “hypocrite” was an actor in the Greek theater who pretended to be someone they were not. The religious leaders loved giving fancy prayers that made them look super spiritual. Jesus warned that since the applause of people is what they were after, then that’s the only reward they were going to get!
Ask yourself, "When it really comes down to it, why do I pray? To please God or to impress people?"
Jesus recommended finding a private place to pray. This helps eliminate distractions and assures that you are doing it for God, not for others.
2. Pray Simply
And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. Matthew 6:7-8
Keep it simple and sincere! There are no bonus points for fancy words.
Prayer is not about saying the exact right words to twist God’s arm. Martin Luther said, “Prayer is not overcoming God's reluctance. It is laying hold of His willingness.” Repeating the same things over and over doesn’t make your prayer more powerful.
Talk to God like you would to a loving, earthly father. You speak to your father with respect, but you talk to him informally. God cares about your heart, not your words.
3. Pray Shamelessly
Jesus tells a story of a man who had a traveler come to visit, but he realized he didn’t have anything with which to feed him. So, he went over to his neighbor’s house at midnight to ask for some bread. He knocked on the door and the annoyed neighbor opened the door in his pajamas and said, "I’ve been asleep for awhile, and so are my kids. Do you know how hard it is to get them to bed? Sorry!" and slams the door.
But this man wouldn’t take no for an answer, so he kept knocking until finally his neighbor gave in. Here’s the point...
I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:8–13
God is not your grumpy neighbor. If shameless asking will work for your grumpy neighbor, how much more will it work for your Father who loves you? God is not annoyed by your request. He’s actually waiting for you to knock on his door! Our Father loves giving us good gifts!
I wonder what gifts God is waiting to give to those who have the shameless audacity to ask him.
Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:16
Because of the cross, we can come shamelessly into God’s presence and ask him for whatever we need! How shameless are your prayers? Is there anything that you have been praying that you're a little embarrassed to tell people about? Do any of your requests make you feel a little uncomfortable?
God is not offended by our big prayers! God loves it when we come to him sincerely, simply & shamelessly.
Jesus tells a story of a man who had a traveler come to visit, but he realized he didn’t have anything with which to feed him. So, he went over to his neighbor’s house at midnight to ask for some bread. He knocked on the door and the annoyed neighbor opened the door in his pajamas and said, "I’ve been asleep for awhile, and so are my kids. Do you know how hard it is to get them to bed? Sorry!" and slams the door.
But this man wouldn’t take no for an answer, so he kept knocking until finally his neighbor gave in. Here’s the point...
I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:8–13
God is not your grumpy neighbor. If shameless asking will work for your grumpy neighbor, how much more will it work for your Father who loves you? God is not annoyed by your request. He’s actually waiting for you to knock on his door! Our Father loves giving us good gifts!
I wonder what gifts God is waiting to give to those who have the shameless audacity to ask him.
Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:16
Because of the cross, we can come shamelessly into God’s presence and ask him for whatever we need! How shameless are your prayers? Is there anything that you have been praying that you're a little embarrassed to tell people about? Do any of your requests make you feel a little uncomfortable?
God is not offended by our big prayers! God loves it when we come to him sincerely, simply & shamelessly.
Which of these three ways of praying do you want to grow in?